You're not old in your 30s

The way I see it… you’re really not old in your 40s or 50s either. Some could argue 60s.

I’m 35 now. And I kinda have beef with every person who, on my 29th birthday, implied how I better enjoy that year because the fun is up once you’re in your 30s! Lol. The heck it’s not! My 30s have been so so cool.

And are these people who suggest life plummets after 29 not also examing the PITFALLS of being in your 20s?: The crippling self-consciousness. The feeling of obligation— to waste time entertaining relationships that are really no more than acquaintances? Or an obligation to serve something that doesn’t serve you? (We willingly put up with more in our 20s and that sucks.)

Career-wise in your 20s- having to prove yourself extra hard to dispel the immediate you’re-in-your-20s-you’re-an-idiot notion? In your 30s you don’t have to prove yourself as much and say what you will but that does free up a lot of mental space. It’s a great thing.

I will say this- My 20s were great (and terrible) but wow oh wow do I love my 30s. It’s still hard, because life is HARD. no matter your age… but I love it here. I love this decade. It’s sexy and fun and powerful.

The fun is not over after 30. And understand our idea of fun will continue to evolve throughout life. Fun times don’t die. A vibrant attitude does not die. The only way there is death of fun and vibrancy is if you choose to be a grump.

Do you want to be grump? Didn’t think so!

Let’s talk about social life in your 30s. 

We don’t stop going out and being SOCIAL after 30. Maybe less, sure,… but if women over 30 stopped going out, bars and venues would see a significant decrease in revenue. They’d plead to have the 30s peeps back. Like we very much have a place.

If anything, 30s/40s and beyond people are still going out— they’ve just changed their surroundings to what matches their current life. Like they’ve discovered that doing things like having people over for dinner or planning at BBQ can be just as fun as karaoke at a bar. They can, and do, absolutely enjoy both.

The 30s can be a very sexy, social time to look forward to. It’s often even upgraded in many ways! More connections. More security in yourself. Better food. Better drinks.

The social aspect continues, but I really do feel it’s elevated.

So yes, we might not go OUT out as frequently as we get older, but that’s not because we can’t or we’re not welcome to (obviously we are) but more-so because our idea of fun will shift. We start to take pleasure in other ways to spend our time. Can someone tell me what is wrong with that? Life is boring if it doesn’t change sometimes.

By the way… I have friends in their 40s and 50s who have the hottest most fun social life. Stop thinking it’s over.

Now let’s talk about looks as you get older. Are you going to start getting some fine lines in your late twenties/early 30s? Likely so. But who cares? It does not mean you don’t still got it. It doesn’t mean you’re “not as pretty” as you once were. You’re going to look mostly the same for a longgggg time. And youth does not equate beauty. Beauty equals beauty… and anyone can be beautiful at any age.

Want an advantage? Take care of yourself. Make effort. Enjoy the beauty of moving your body and eating well. Get data on your body. Think prevention prevention prevention. Think keep inflammation low. And then don’t sweat it!

Whether you’re pulling out all the stops to remain physically vibrant or you’re not doing a damn thing… there’s power in both. And isn’t that kind of cool to think about? I’m a “pull out all the stops” kinda gal— I just don’t obsess. I love where I am. Unless I die early, the years WILL keep coming and I WILL gain years on my appearance. But my God it’s slowly!! It’s never overnight! And I don’t mind it! A graceful, happy attitude is where its at.

Thankful to be alive.

Technically, you could actually get better looking in your 30s. Especially if you were hard on your body in your 20s. You can tweak your workout game in a way that’s best for your body, perhaps something you didn’t do in your 20s. You can try to do your makeup better. Play up your features more, dress more flattering– I don’t know! All the things! Lower inflammation for once! Start working on your fascia and lymph (something you might not have done in your 20s)— that certainly can make you more vibrant than your younger self if you never did it before.

Are you getting the message? You really don’t need to freak out about your looks as you get older okay! Say it with me: Beauty does not equal youth! It doesn’t all go out the window at a certain age.

Also look at it this way: The added confidence that comes with your 30s/40s pretty much equals you out to your prior early/mid-20s “perfect” self– because chances are your ass was way more insecure then. Insecurity isn’t pretty. It’s awkward and clunky. Confidence, though, that’s sooooo sexy. And baby… Confidence knows no age.

A Woman advancing in decades is beautiful. Especially if she welcomes it and just owns that ish. You can age and own it, or you can age and not own it! The choice is yours!

Next up, let’s discuss metabolism. Sure, it begins to slow a bit… but does it? Or are your hormones just messed up from your 20s? I think it’s mostly that. I myself have a faster metabolism now in my 30s than I did in my 20s. But that’s because I spend a lot (time and money) on my health. I’m constantly seeking new data so I can be optimal. Something I prioritize way more in my 30s.

If you’re exercising and eating in a nutrient-dense manner most of the time, AND caring for your hormones/gut/detox organs then you’ll be fine! FINE! I promise. Stop thinking it all crashes and burns after 29! That’s so false. And it’s easier to stay healthy than you think. Keep a positive attitude!

Look at it this way: Eating in a nourishing way most of the time and exercising is something we should be trying to do anyway, right? Whether you are 25 or 35 or 45 and beyond. So what’s the big deal? Better for your body’s functionality anyway. Even young 20s people shouldn’t be eating crap.

Yes, it is hard work to stay in shape. But you know what? It was hard work back then, and it’s hard work now! That aspect doesn’t change. I don’t get where people are like “it’s way harder to stay in shape in your 30s” while I’m over here thinking it was hard in my 20s too! I hate working out lol. I just do it! I fluctuated then, I fluctuate now.

Also think: embrace some extra curves if you got them! Va va voom baby! Why not? New looks can be fun. Maybe you’ll feel more confident with extra curves or softness! Or you really just won’t change at all. Whatever comes at you- there you are and you’re absolutely perfect.

I’m going to say this: EVERYTHING is mindset. Your mind can keep you high-spirited, exciting, and full of life. Or it can make you the opposite. It holds so much power.

Even Erik Erikson (famed developmental psychologist) says young adulthood is 19-40. FORTY!

Psychologist Carl Jung (whom we can thank for the Myers-Briggs personality tests/cognitive functions) states that around age 30 is when we begin to focus less on personal concerns such as materialism and sexuality and more on collective concerns such as humanity and community. I think that’s a good thing. He also believes that if we just acknowledge that shift and don’t try to fight it, we shouldn’t feel so neurotic and worried about getting older. And again, “getting older” doesn’t mean “old.”

FINAL THOUGHTS:

Your time is not running out. You must stop panicing over dusty scenarios that usually don’t even play out. Society has it wrong. Don’t be a sheep. Enjoy every decade! Look forward to them!

30s are SOOOOOO INCREDIBLE. The confidence, the quality of people around you, the wisdom! The power. Cheers to the rebels of every age. Be one!

P.S I’ve heard many times that the real fun starts after 60 anyway. 😉 God willing we get there.